So far in our podcast, we mostly interviewed dads who had their kids either through surrogacy or adoption. But there are other ways in which you can become dads. In this week’s episode we look at two ways that are often overlooked: Known Sperm Donor, and Co-Parenting.
David Dodge, managing editor at GaysWithKids.com is a father of two children, who he had together with a lesbian couple. Though he has no legal rights with the kids, they still call him ‘papa,’ and his parents go to visit their grandchildren even when he’s not around. In our interview, David sheds light on being a Known Sperm Donor.
In our second interview we had Bill Delaney and husband J.R. Parish on a Skype call from San Francisco. They are co-parents of two girls together with a lesbian couple. In the call they discuss this carefully planned (and amazing!) arrangement.
Bill and J.R. have also provided us with the sample that they’ve found and used as base for the co-parenting agreement with their girls’ mom (download here) and also created a cheat-sheet of questions and topics that should be discussed upon the decision to go into co-parenting
During the episode, we count the ways* in which gay men can currently become dads:
3. Men who come out of straight partnerships and marriages
4. Sperm Donation (known or unknown donor)
*If you would like to add to or comment on this list please write to us at firstname.lastname@example.org
Our Family Coalition
Our Family Coalition (OFC) is based in the Bay Area but is the largest state-wide advocacy organization for LGBT families. They’ve contributed to varying degrees to everything from marriage equality court cases, to getting LGBT inclusive curriculum added to CA’s public school system, to achieving the multi-parent legal recognition that was mentioned on our interview with Bill and J.R.
Co-Hosts: Yan Dekel, Alex Maghen
Guests: David Dodge GaysWithKids.com, Bill Delaney & J.R. Parish
Music: Hercules & Love Affair, “Leonora” buy here
Articles referred to in this episode:
Putting the ‘Known’ in Known Sperm Donor (David Dodge, The New York Times)
The Known Sperm Donor (GaysWithKids.com)
Top Three Benefits of ‘Intentional Co-Parenting’ for Gay Men & Couples (Bill Delaney, GaysWithKids.com)
11 Steps Gay Men Should Take Before Co-Parenting With a Female Friend (Bill Delaney, GaysWithKids.com)
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