There are so many things that change from the time you decide you want to become a parent until it happens… and then after it happens. But one of the changes that may not be so obvious is the effect that all of this can have on your social life in general, and especially on close friends. And relationships with your closest gay friends – many of whom often don’t have children – can be a real question. In our season finale we brought on two guests — each of them is best friends with a gay dad couple, to explore changes in close friendships after parenthood starts.
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A couple of years ago, entrepreneur Leslie Farnsworth, who decided she didn’t want to have kids, gave an advise on TODAY for parents who want to remain close with a child-free friend: “talk about your children, because your girlfriend truly does want to hear about your little ones,” she said, “but don’t get into a long dish session on every detail of your kids’ lives and completely forget to ask your friend what is happening in her world.”
The internet is filled with advice and information for straight people (and especially for straight women) about friendship after major changes in life, and in particularly staying close when one friend has kids and the other doesn’t. But what about the gays (“But What About the Gays” could be our podcast’s sub-title)? The ‘gayby boom’ and the daily discourse on same sex parenting has yet to cover this subject, even though this issue is one of the biggest concerns among gay men who wish to have kids: what’s going to happen to our social life? What’s going to happen to our family-like relationship with our childless gay friends?
To open a window to this discussion we brought on not one but two gay best friends, who each share from his personal experience what it’s like staying friends with a gay couple after they had children; what’s changed and what hasn’t.
Scott Bufford has been friends with Alex for 17 years, long before Alex met Yan. Originally from St. Louis, Missouri, Scott lives in Los Angeles and works as the Creative Director for the Television Academy and had previously worked in the art department at Disney. He is currently single.
Dwayne Landry has been friends with Richard and Tommy for 18 years, he knew them separately before they met each other. He has been through their child-making process with them up close, and has been in their twins’ lives in the past 10 years like family. Originally from Louisiana, Dwayne lives in Los Angeles and works as an IT consultant.
Co-Hosts: Yan Dekel, Alex Maghen
Guests: Scott Bufford, Dwayne Landry
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