Yan’s Parenting Diary

Normalizing Kids’ Screen Time

Screen time for kids is always a sensitive issue in parenting. But sometimes I think we look at it all wrong; Humanity is ever-changing, and parenting should precede our evolution. I remember sitting outside Music Class waiting for my kids on a pre-CoVID-19 weekend. I was talking to another parent and we somehow got to […]

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Covid-19: A Guide for the Socially-Anxious

Shame, embarrassment, shyness, fear of rejection: these are the components that have been putting me in quarantine long before it was “in fashion.” On the other side of the boxing ring lies the fear of missing out and the desire to have meaningful and true friendships. Who wins this fight? For years I’ve been struggling […]

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“Daddy, I peed on my hand”

There’s a super annoying YouTube video that our kids love to watch about this little cartoon girl who nags her dad, “Daddy! Daddy! DaddyDaddyDaddyDaddy!” The father, who’s reading his newspaper finally answers angrily “WHAT?!” Never mind what happens later in the video (the girl tells him that she found a poop in the back yard […]

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Musical Beds

How, for heaven’s sake, did I find myself fighting over sleeping space with our dog, folded like a magician’s assistant inside a slice box, in a 5-foot toddler bed at 2am?As we go through the “coming to daddies bed” phase every night, I struggle endlessly for my basic human right to sleep… somewhere for the […]

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How We Failed Toilet Training

I don’t know what it’s like in your families, but where I come from it seems as if our value as parents is measured exclusively by how advanced our kids are. It’s all ‘Push them! Push them!’ attitude: ‘Get them to sit up by 3 months!’ ‘Get them to walk by 9 months!’ ‘What?! They […]

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Dr. Liu with Ben Before the Surgery

Our Kid Just Had His Tonsils and Adenoids out at Two and a Half. Here’s What I Learned

Having the tonsils out for young kids is not so fun – and it sure ain’t fun for the parents either. This post is about how to bring out all your parenting skills, there’s no one who knows your kid better than you–so you are the most needed component in your kid’s recovery. When I […]

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Terrible Twos

Top Three Reasons Why the Terrible Twos are Terrible!

They call this age the “Terrible Twos” and having two of this is like… I have a problem. I always look around at other parents, wondering how come they seem to know exactly what to do with their kids, so effortlessly, while I’m struggling to not go out of the house each morning looking like […]

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On strict and Consistent Schedules and Knowing When to Break Them

Some parents will disagree, but having a consistent schedule–and especially night time schedule–for the kids, is not only healthy for everybody, it also makes parenting so much easier. My late aunt Rachel was a sort of magician with children. Never having children of her own, she karmically compensated by working her entire life as a […]

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That Time When We Had a Huge Fight in Front of the Kids

Yes, we fight. We’re not the picture perfect couple. Sometimes we even fight in front of the kids. And when we do — we also kiss and make up in front of them. Alex and I don’t fight a lot. We fight, but since we started couples therapy it’s been so much better. I think […]

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This Parent is Broken: There Are Days When You Just Want to Return Them

I had a great idea for a blog post. It’s been circling around my head for a few days now. But just as I opened a new document and was about to type in the first word there was a knock on my home office door. It was our nanny. “Hi, sorry to bother you […]

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