On strict and Consistent Schedules and Knowing When to Break Them

On strict and Consistent Schedules and Knowing When to Break Them

Some parents will disagree, but having a consistent schedule–and especially night time schedule–for the kids, is not only healthy for everybody, it also makes parenting so much easier. My late aunt Rachel was a sort of magician with children. Never having children of her own, she karmically compensated by working her entire life as a […]

"Making a potion for a healthy child" - Witch Hazel

It’s the cold season: Don’t Toss out the Old Wives’ Tales!

The flu season takes its toll and while we struggle to maintain our own health, there’s nothing we want more than a healthy child. Here’s some natural “potions” from my family’s long history of “witches” that can keep your child (and you!) happy and healthy Alex always says that he thinks I come from a […]

That Time When We Had a Huge Fight in Front of the Kids

That Time When We Had a Huge Fight in Front of the Kids

Yes, we fight. We’re not the picture perfect couple. Sometimes we even fight in front of the kids. And when we do — we also kiss and make up in front of them. Alex and I don’t fight a lot. We fight, but since we started couples therapy it’s been so much better. I think […]

That Time My Husband Went on a Three-Day Working Trip Out of Town

That Time My Husband Went on a Three-Day Working Trip Out of Town

I worry I whine too much about how hard it is to take care of two babies (now toddlers), especially when for some parents it seem like a piece of cake. I think that to some extent the pain and suffering Alex and I are experiencing is related to the fact that both of us […]

This Parent is Broken: There Are Days When You Just Want to Return Them

This Parent is Broken: There Are Days When You Just Want to Return Them

I had a great idea for a blog post. It’s been circling around my head for a few days now. But just as I opened a new document and was about to type in the first word there was a knock on my home office door. It was our nanny. “Hi, sorry to bother you […]

How We Got Our Babies to Sleep Through the Night

How We Got Our Babies to Sleep Through the Night

Both Alex and I are very organized people. Before the kids came along, our days were pretty much regimented. We had our jobs, our workouts at the gym, our nights out and our lazy time in front of the TV. After the pooping-eating-sleeping bombs dropped in our house, we tried as quickly as we could […]

Navigate the Sea of Baby Toys

Navigate the Sea of Baby Toys

I remember the day when I finally realized that the two poop-machines in the house need entertainment too. The first three months had pretty much passed with a couple of knitted rattles, and a lot of music and singing my childhood’s pop songs to their faces. But now they’d started moving and we wanted to […]

How We Kept Our Sanity After Babies Were Born

How We Kept Our Sanity After Babies Were Born

There’s a growing theory by celebrity gossip-lovers that celebrities getting pregnant with twins is no coincidence. Mariah Carey, Jennifer Lopez, Rebecca Romijn are on the twins list, and then there’s the recent celebration of Beyoncé and George Clooney’s (separate, of course) twins announcements. That’s an awful lot of twins. The theory banging around is that […]

Where to Start If You’re A Gay Couple Wanting to Have Kids

Where to Start If You’re A Gay Couple Wanting to Have Kids

Gay couples who think about having babies: Three basic tips that can help you know where to start (and also how to spend less money) When Alex and I started thinking about having children, my late beloved therapist used to ask me, “Why do you want to have kids?” She asked me that every week, and […]

A New Generation of Gay Dads

A New Generation of Gay Dads

We’re the first generation of gays who can get married and have biological children in this way – and we don’t have to do everything exactly like the straight couples are doing. We can find our own way. Until I had children, every time I saw someone else’s – either in pictures or in person […]