Growing up I was constantly told that “it’s a dog-eat-dog” world. It led to a distorted perception of myself, of society and of myself among society. There’s an old Latin saying that goes Homo homini lupus est. “A man to a man is a wolf.” As I’ve grown up I’ve realized that unknowingly I’ve taken this […]
The world would be so unfair if people could do bad things and get away with it. But it happens, so it’s time to cross people off the black book and understand vengeance – so it can be dissolved. Spoiler alert: there are injustices in the world, and not everyone who is doing something wrong […]
Facing our kids’ fears can be a challenge. We try as parents to protect our kids and to keep them happy all the time, so I guess when they start to develop things like a fear of death – subjects that we adults have still not figured out – what are we supposed to tell […]
Forgiving yourself, or at least trying to, is to my opinion a very advanced place to be on the quest to self-healing and breaking the circle of shame. So if you are here, it means that you’ve already been through tough times thinking, asking questions, grieving, blaming, and surrendering. Over the past few weeks I’ve […]
For years I’ve been struggling with shame, thinking that I’m not good enough. But how much of it is constantly being fed by things that I don’t even notice that I’m doing? A quick search on Google images for “gay” leads the results of what Google thinks we all want to see: perfectly-shaped muscular torsos […]
Do you believe in pet reincarnation? I think I do. Especially after this crazy experience. August 23, 2019 was the day when the tragedy hit us. We were on our way to Las Vegas for a weekend, drove nearly six hours from LA with our kids, and as just we arrived in ‘Vegas we got […]
For years I’ve been struggling with friendships. It was never easy for me to “make friends,” and since I arrived in America 11 years ago it’s only become harder. But what I’ve discovered lately is that I’m not alone in this, and it’s not just an immigrant thing. I see gay men who seem to […]
I believe that gay marriage is here to ‘fix marriage.’ I know, it’s a little controversial, and you’ve been hearing me saying this on our podcast, but think about this: for years, we gay men couldn’t get married and had to base our long-term relationships on the daily question of ‘do I want to be […]
I have a video of our son Ben at the age of 20 months standing in front of a sign to a “My Gym” and pointing while saying each letter on the sign. Our kids started learning to read more or less at the same time they started to speak. I thought it was normal, […]
You expect a country like the UK to be progressive with its laws when it comes to surrogacy for gay men, but the truth is far from it. Apparently, the woman who gives birth is recognized as the legitimate mother, and gay dads have to apply for paternity—even if one of them is the biological […]
