Helping my kids face their fears

Facing Your Kids’ Fear of the Dark and Fear of Death

Facing our kids’ fears can be a challenge. We try as parents to protect our kids and to keep them happy all the time, so I guess when they start to develop things like a fear of death – subjects that we adults have still not figured out – what are we supposed to tell […]

forgiving yourself

A Gay Man’s Guide To Forgiving Yourself

Forgiving yourself, or at least trying to, is to my opinion a very advanced place to be on the quest to self-healing and breaking the circle of shame. So if you are here, it means that you’ve already been through tough times thinking, asking questions, grieving, blaming, and surrendering. Over the past few weeks I’ve […]

gay-shame

Heart for the Shirtless Selfie: The Paradox of the “Gay” Naked Body

For years I’ve been struggling with shame, thinking that I’m not good enough. But how much of it is constantly being fed by things that I don’t even notice that I’m doing? A quick search on Google images for “gay” leads the results of what Google thinks we all want to see: perfectly-shaped muscular torsos […]

From Koobeh to Charlie

From Koobeh to Charlie

Do you believe in pet reincarnation? I think I do. Especially after this crazy experience. August 23, 2019 was the day when the tragedy hit us. We were on our way to Las Vegas for a weekend, drove nearly six hours from LA with our kids, and as just we arrived in ‘Vegas we got […]

Gay Friendships and Why I’ve Joined Gay Group Therapy

Gay Friendships and Why I’ve Joined Gay Group Therapy

For years I’ve been struggling with friendships. It was never easy for me to “make friends,” and since I arrived in America 11 years ago it’s only become harder. But what I’ve discovered lately is that I’m not alone in this, and it’s not just an immigrant thing. I see gay men who seem to […]

Lessons Straight People Can Learn from Gay Marriage

Lessons Straight People Can Learn from Gay Marriage

I believe that gay marriage is here to ‘fix marriage.’ I know, it’s a little controversial, and you’ve been hearing me saying this on our podcast, but think about this: for years, we gay men couldn’t get married and had to base our long-term relationships on the daily question of ‘do I want to be […]

How Our kids Learned Reading and Writing Before the Age of 4

How Our kids Learned Reading and Writing Before the Age of 4

I have a video of our son Ben at the age of 20 months standing in front of a sign to a “My Gym” and pointing while saying each letter on the sign. Our kids started learning to read more or less at the same time they started to speak. I thought it was normal, […]

VIDEO INTERVIEW Shocking UK Surrogacy Laws leave British Gay Men with Nearly Zero Rights On Their Way to Fatherhood

VIDEO INTERVIEW Shocking UK Surrogacy Laws leave British Gay Men with Nearly Zero Rights On Their Way to Fatherhood

You expect a country like the UK to be progressive with its laws when it comes to surrogacy for gay men, but the truth is far from it. Apparently, the woman who gives birth is recognized as the legitimate mother, and gay dads have to apply for paternity—even if one of them is the biological […]

Pandemic Fatigue: Self Help for CoVID-19 Depression

Pandemic Fatigue: Self Help for CoVID-19 Depression

While #StayAtHome during COVID-19, have you suffered from tiredness, exhaustion, lack of motivation or depression? You might have experienced a Pandemic Fatigue. Yan, who is a no stranger to this form of exhaustion, lays out 5 ways that helped him deal with that. I MISS PEOPLE. This global pandemic has been eating away all of […]

Normalizing Kids’ Screen Time

Normalizing Kids’ Screen Time

Screen time for kids is always a sensitive issue in parenting. But sometimes I think we look at it all wrong; Humanity is ever-changing, and parenting should precede our evolution. I remember sitting outside Music Class waiting for my kids on a pre-CoVID-19 weekend. I was talking to another parent and we somehow got to […]