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A Gay Man’s Guide To Forgiving Yourself

Forgiving yourself, or at least trying to, is to my opinion a very advanced place to be on the quest to self-healing and breaking the circle of shame. So if you are here, it means that you’ve already been through ...
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Heart for the Shirtless Selfie: The Paradox of the “Gay” Naked Body

For years I’ve been struggling with shame, thinking that I’m not good enough. But how much of it is constantly being fed by things that I don’t even notice that I’m doing? A quick search on Google images for “gay” ...
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From Koobeh to Charlie

Do you believe in pet reincarnation? I think I do. Especially after this crazy experience. August 23, 2019 was the day when the tragedy hit us. We were on our way to Las Vegas for a weekend, drove nearly six ...
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Gay Friendships and Why I’ve Joined Gay Group Therapy

For years I’ve been struggling with friendships. It was never easy for me to “make friends,” and since I arrived in America 11 years ago it’s only become harder. But what I’ve discovered lately is that I’m not alone in ...
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Lessons Straight People Can Learn from Gay Marriage

I believe that gay marriage is here to ‘fix marriage.’ I know, it’s a little controversial, and you’ve been hearing me saying this on our podcast, but think about this: for years, we gay men couldn’t get married and had ...
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How Our kids Learned Reading and Writing Before the Age of 4

I have a video of our son Ben at the age of 20 months standing in front of a sign to a “My Gym” and pointing while saying each letter on the sign. Our kids started learning to read more ...
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VIDEO INTERVIEW Shocking UK Surrogacy Laws leave British Gay Men with Nearly Zero Rights On Their Way to Fatherhood

You expect a country like the UK to be progressive with its laws when it comes to surrogacy for gay men, but the truth is far from it. Apparently, the woman who gives birth is recognized as the legitimate mother, ...
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Pandemic Fatigue: Self Help for CoVID-19 Depression

While #StayAtHome during COVID-19, have you suffered from tiredness, exhaustion, lack of motivation or depression? You might have experienced a Pandemic Fatigue. Yan, who is a no stranger to this form of exhaustion, lays out 5 ways that helped him ...
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Normalizing Kids’ Screen Time

Screen time for kids is always a sensitive issue in parenting. But sometimes I think we look at it all wrong; Humanity is ever-changing, and parenting should precede our evolution. I remember sitting outside Music Class waiting for my kids ...
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Daddy Squared Greatest Hits

Alex and Yan look back at the three seasons of the show. Daddy Squared: The Gay Dads Podcast first aired in September 2018. Since then we have done three seasons, a COVID-19 thirty-day challenge and a Pride 2020 episode. This ...
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